Category Archives for "Personal Development"

Mar 15

How To Ace The Basics of Leadership? 

By Judy | Leadership , Personal Development

How To Ace The Basics of Leadership?  

Are you tired of following orders or following others around and not leading in your own life?  Well, you’re not alone in this but….

We’re not all born leaders. We learn new skills over time to become leaders. Inside each one of us is a great leader but some people just don’t choose to lead.

Leading is a choice you make. Knowing what it takes to become a leader will help you get started on your journey to leading others or once you know what it’s going to take maybe your just going to decide to keep doing what you’re doing but, then at least it becomes your choice.

If you are already running your own business, leading a community, working in a job that requires you to lead others, or simply want others to look to you for your leadership qualities you may want to check out the list below to remind yourself of all it takes lead.  If you are just starting to consider becoming a leader, read on this will get you started.

Leadership Begins With You  – Model The Way

When choosing leadership you also choose to model the way for others. Great leaders understand that they need to act the way they want others to act. They lead by example.

Two important questions you may want to ask yourself as a leader are:

  1. Am I showing up in my life as a good example of the way I want him/her to be? and
  2. Am I treating him/her the way I want to be treated?

I have seen and felt, first-hand, what it feels like on teams that have leaders that don’t even possess the qualities needed to lead.  Often they get into leadership roles because they bully, bribe, lie, and cajole their way to the top only to continue the same behavior when they become the leader, which does not end in good results in the end.

If you want to be a Leader – Start Developing The following Characteristics

1. Honesty and Trustworthiness 

People are looking for leaders who are honest and trustworthy.  The news is full of stories of leaders who lie.  What that does for the leader is erode what others think of them very quickly.  No one wants to look up to or follow a person who is dishonest.  Trust is not built-in your first meeting but destroyed fast if you are not honest.

2. Visionary and Forward Thinking

Great leaders inspire vision and are forward thinking.  In order to inspire vision it is important for them to understand  who they’re leading. People want to believe that their leaders have clear vision and that they have their best interests at heart.

3. Inspiring

Great leaders are those who inspire hope and dreams in others. Leaders are dreamers and they understand that everyone else has a dream as well. The best leaders fuel others’ dreams.

4. Dedicated and Supportive

They show others how to come together in unity for the good of everyone and are supportive to all team members. It takes dedicated leaders to support teams, businesses and communities that thrive. The most important thing a leader can do is to allow their team to act.  Leaders trust the people on their team and have faith that each member will be responsible and effective, while at the same time, they hold their team members accountable for their results.  They are not a babysitter for each team member and do not micromanage their team members, they support them to  greatness.

5. Courageous Pioneer

Leaders are enthusiastic pioneers for their teams and lead with courage. They venture out and take action. Wise leaders understand that change will not just happen – they make it happen.

6. Care For People

They seek opportunities for growth and for building capacity. The best leaders do not command others—they inspire them to do what needs to get done. Leaders watch for opportunities to recognize achievements, and celebrate milestones and they urge all team members to do the same.  They truly care about their people.

7. Intelligent and Competent

Learning new things is second nature to leaders. They are intelligent and become the experts in their fields.  Leaders know what they are good at and hire people who are experts with the skills they do not have.  They “hire-up” and are not afraid of working with people who are more competent than they are in some areas.

8. Fair, Broad-Minded and Dependable

You know you are working with a leader when you can easily talk to them, they are open to suggestions and new ideas as well as critiques, fair to all, yet straight-forward when they’re approached with problems. You can depend on

leaders to make things happen, and they step up to problems with great new ideas to move forward.

9. Determined and Imaginative

Leaders days are often filled with problems. Whether these problems are their own or their team’s, a problem is a problem. Leaders see problems as something that is looking for a solution.  They do not see problems as something to fear or shy away from. Many people find continuously facing problems overwhelming to the point of frustration, not leaders, they thrive on solving problems.

Great leaders, understand that without issues or problems there is no growth. Problems are a part of life. The more challenges you have, the more you are living. It is the way you look at problems that is really the issue. Leader stay focused on their goal when problems occur and how they will solve the next obstacle.

Determined leaders are very imaginative sometimes when it comes to solving problems and usually do not stay stuck for very long on any one problem.

Ace The Basics

Becoming a leader takes dedication, passion and persistence.  You cannot force your leadership on anyone, they must want to follow you as a leader.  Take your time work on each one of the characteristics above, ace the basics and you will become the leader that everyone wants on their team and in their community and remember

becoming a good leader takes years of practice.

Till next Time,

Judy

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Feb 27

Learning something new SUCKS!

By Judy | Employment , Personal Development

Learning Life Skill

Learning Something New Sucks!

I have never met anyone that finds learning easy.  Even if you if love to learn the process of getting our brains to understand what we are learning is tough.  It means change and takes time to form new neuropathways in our brains.

Let’s take learning how to set goals and make them happen for an example.  Every January many of us spend time thinking about our New Year’s Resolutions or new goals for the coming year, but, Statisticbrain.com says that, only 9.2% of people feel they make their New Year’s Resolution happen.

Wow, that sucks! I bet that makes you feel motivated, huh?

Do you think it might be because most people are never taught how to get what they want or they just don’t want to take the time to learn how to get what they want?

I want you to imagine, the first time you ever rode a bike, maybe drove a car, swam, skied, anything you did for the first time. Imagine that, for just a minute.

When you started to learn this skill, was it easy? Did you fall, scrap your knees, get frustrated, want to quit…

Normally, when we start anything new for the first time we find it difficult. Our brain just doesn’t seem to want to let us grasp it immediately.

In fact, things that end up being the best reward in the end, often are the most difficult to learn.

I remember my first bike ride.  I was so bad that even when I thought I was good, I fell and ended up with 7 stitches right across the front of my knee and a brace on my leg for 2 weeks so I didn’t keep breaking it open.

There was no fun in that, yet I still wanted to get good at riding that bike.

New Year’s resolutions, or setting goals are no different from learning how to do something for the first time.

In fact, learning anything for the first time is not normally a snap for most of us, but once we learn the basics and practice the rewards are worth the effort.

So, why is it that we will learn how to do all kinds of things in our lives but we don’t learn how to set goals properly in elementary school?   Children are so smart now, this is something we could begin to teach them young and they would find their lives much more rewarding as they get older.

Heck, maybe you have never really been taught how to set goals and make the results you hoped for. Most of us were not taught this in school or even at home. I know I certainly was not.

A skill so important that all major achievers learn it and perfect it.  They understand the impact setting proper goals can have in your life.

Learning how to follow a system for goal setting can change your life and within days you can begin to see results.

Spending a lifetime learning, I set learning how to master goal setting, as a priority. I know how important it is to know how to set goals and plan strategically when running a business. Without knowing how to set goals I would have been out of business a long time ago.

No, not all my goals worked out the way I planned them, exactly. Some worked out even better and some pivoted into something new and some were simply stopped.

You see once you know how to follow a system, you can make that job you have always wanted happen, get that new car, buy that home for your family…and more and even when life gets hard, you will know how to start over.

Why not start to learn this skill now, and start getting what you say you want?

After all, you don’t have to wait until January every year to start something new. You can begin to craft out what you want any time of the year.

Don’t spend years like I did, reading books, articles, magazines, taking course after course that never really had a system I could follow.

We are now in the age where the world is changing rapidly and learning to set goals is a skill you can apply to every aspect of your life: Career, Relationships, Health, Spirituality, Finances and more.

If you are going to learn anything this year…sign up to get more information on the launch of our new program for Planning To Get Anything You Want, as it comes available here.  In the comments section simply state Interested in Planning To Get Anything You Want information and we will send it to you as soon as it is ready.

In the meantime remember learning is not easy for anyone and for some it is down right difficult but, the more you practice learning the easier it is and just knowing it will be tough can easy the pain as you go through changing your brain.

Happy learning till next time,

Judy Michaud

Feb 21

Problems Are Waiting To Be Solved!

By Judy | Employment , Leadership , Personal Development

Problems Life Skills

Problems Are Waiting To Be Solved – Master This Life Skill

Problems are waiting for you to solve them. Are you someone who sees a problem in your life as a bad thing? or

Are you someone who sees a problem as a good thing? It’s like the age-old question “Do you see the cup half empty or half full?”

Problems are not bad to have in your life.  If you have nothing you need to solve or overcome in a day how full is your life?  Problems do not need to mean DRAMA or crazy making stuff that happens to all of us.

Problems are things that arise in our lives every day they are given to us to learn to solve.  A problem is something that needs you to deal with it. Just think back on the last problem you solved and how great you felt.  Solving your own problems will help you raise your own self-esteem.

When we are children we have parents, who help us solve problems, sometimes they even solve them for you.  Not always a good thing for you.  The younger you are when you start to learn to solve problems the better you will get when you get older.

Teenagers want to solve their own problems.  This is a good thing.  What teens need is guidance, a chance to figure things out, fail, get back up, dust themselves off and try again and master this life skill.  The parents become the biggest cheerleader.

As a child, teenager or even adult when we face problems we will often do one of three things: freeze, run, or fight.

Sometimes our instincts will kick in and we will solve our problems based on impulsive emotions.  Not the best solution.

Problems Life Skill

Below are seven things to consider when you face a problem that is looking for a solution.

1. The way you look at the problem will decide how you solve the problem.

If you look at it with determination and resolve you will find a way to overcome the obstacle and find the solution.  If you look at it as if it is something that is being “done to you” or from a place of “why me” then you need to consider changing your mind.  Feeling “done to” or asking “why me” will not help you solve your problem.

Solving problems takes practice.

The more problems you solve the more success you will see in your life.  Very successful people learn to solve many problems and they do not stay stuck (or frozen) for any length of time.  They move on and make things happen, even if it does not work and they must try something else.  They are not afraid to fail.  They just keep moving along with calculated action to solve their problems.

2. Is the problem life threatening. 

Do I need to get help immediately or is it something that I can solve given a cool head and time?

If your problem is something that is putting you, someone else or an animal in danger and you cannot stop it on your own, get help!

The longer you wait to reach out to someone the worse the situation may get.  If you are unable to get help leave.

As I stated above, freeze, and get help or run and get away from the situation.  It is not the best idea to fight, as someone is going to get hurt, even though it could be your first response.

Nothing good will come from a head-on fight with someone when both parties are angry.  It is not a great way to solve a life-threatening problem.  If you are in danger run and get help to solve your problem!

3. This problem will end. 

There are several studies on anxiety and worry and I have read that often 8% of what we worry about will come true. Source: The Essence of Success by Earl Nightingale. Edited by Carson V. Conant.

What that means to you is that 92% or what you are worrying about will not happen.  Just knowing that will help you to stop and think about your problem in a different way.

Problems will come and go in your life.  The better you get at solving them the more life you will have.

If you find yourself stuck in a circle of worry stop and ask yourself some questions:  What am I afraid of?  What step(s) can I take now to help me feel better?  Is what I am worrying about really true or is it something I have made up in my mind?  If you are not sure and it involves someone else, go to them and ask them questions to help you confirm your thoughts.  Endless worry is a freeze response that will keep you stuck and even sending you spiraling out of control if you let it.

Stop and breath deeply at least 5 times.  Remember:  All things eventually pass and change into something else.  Nothing stays the same.

If you work at making it better it will improve.  Give it time and relax into the process of solving the problem.

4. Always be accountable – you have created the problem you are in. 

Accountability is a hard concept to understand. There are hundreds of books written on this very topic.   Everything we go through in life we have created for ourselves.  If you can simply accept that what you are going through you have created, then you can take steps to never let it happen again, solve the problem and move on.

Blaming other people or things for our problems does not make the problem go away.  It just keeps you frozen.

If you are taking responsibility for what is happening, you are likely moving in a forward motion of making the problem better.  Sometimes it may seem easier to blame everyone around you for what is taking place but, in the long run you will be the one that stays stuck and does not get the results you want in your life.  Own up and start thinking of solutions instead of blaming the world for the problem you face.

If you have created this, you can also create a solution to fix it.  We all are born with a genius inside.  Stop, breath and listen to your instinct, the answers will come.

5. You are not on this planet alone. 

For every problem you face, there are thousands of people out their wanting to help you solve the problem.

If you want to solve all your own problems get your own planet.

Solve your problems sooner by asking for help. Not asking for problems is a form of flight, running from the problem instead of letting others know you have one and getting the help that you need.  Stop running and start asking for support.

6. Feel the fear and do it anyway. 

Often when we have problems we start to worry, we allow our brains to dwell in negative thoughts and the problem somehow seems to get bigger.  Fear is the problem you are having.  A fear of what others might think, of not being good enough, of getting hurt….what ever it is, it is likely not real.

Sometimes the fear we think about is not reality based and we need to simply do something or stop thinking about what might go wrong.  Many people have the fear of failure.

Successful people feel fear but they know they will must go through some failures to find the gem and success they are looking for.

We all need to go through times of solving problems, some more difficult than others.  Don’t let the fear of anything stop you from solving your most pressing problems today!

7. Own up to your responsibilities as a leader

Leaders solve more problems than most people.

If you strive to lead, you will need to see problems as something that needs solving.

If you come up with a solution you think is going to work and it does not, move on to plan B.  Having a back up plan is always a good plan when solving problems.  If that, then this.  If that does not work, then do this.  By having a plan for what might happen if your first plan does not work.

The next time you have a problem take it on like it is your best friend looking for help.  After all a problem is looking for a solution and needs you to solve it. Mastering this life skill is a great problem to solve.

Till next time,

Judy

 

Feb 18

How to Plan Your Perfect Day Off – Just RnR!

By Judy | Employment , Personal Development

Life Skills Planning

How To Plan Your Perfect Day Off - Just RnR!

Take a few minutes and let’s just relax.  If you are like most people who are employed you work at least 5 days per week, business owners and entrepreneurs probably more.

Many times you may find your work very challenging and sometimes may not even enjoy what you are doing at all.

If you are one of these people who go through each work day wishing you were somewhere else or feeling drained you are not alone.  According to Hays Recruiting experts, half the workforce is unhappy.

How can we help change that?

Let’s look at creating your perfect day off.  Transform your days off so you can have true rest and relaxation.

Life Skills Resting

Time off (average two days per week) makes up almost 30% of your entire year.  Often our “weekends” are Saturday/Sunday but,  you might be required to work on the weekends and your “weekend” is then Sunday, Monday or Tuesday, Wednesday or you work shifts and may get one week off every two weeks or some other combination.

It is inevitable that your day off could come and go and you may still feel just as unhappy and unsatisfied about life as you did before you had time off.  You know you have time off to look forward to, what are you planning to do with this time?  So often we take time for granted – yet it is one of those things we cannot get back.

Some people spend their time off thinking about how much they don’t want to go back to work.  They dwell on their work days, how much they can’t stand their jobs, and waste this valuable time off being unhappy.

That type of thinking and action is certainly not going to transform you into feeling better.  Why not change the way you think about your time off?

Planning your RnR time can help you look forward to something when you are off.  It can also take the burden off the day of trying to figure out at the last-minute what you want to do and maybe not being able to because you waited to long.  When you think of what you would love to do in advance you can save yourself money (by buying your activities on sale in advance), save yourself wasting your day off trying to plan, and sucking your energy dry just trying to make a plan at the last-minute.

Let’s look at the 3 quick things to do to Just RnR on your perfect day off –  transforming your day off.

Life Skills Activities

ACTIVITIES

In order to have a perfect day off you will need to plan some thing to do.  The first item you will want to think about is what activities do I want to do.  Try not to pack too much activity into your day so it feels relaxed and remember to plan in nap time and sleeping in.  When you get plenty of rest you feel better, your body rejuvenates itself while you sleep and you will begin to feel stress leaving your body.

WHO WILL YOU RnR WITH

Think of your activities above and decide who you want to invite to be a part of your perfect day and what activities they will take part in with you.  Maybe it’s a whole day at a resort with that special person in your life.

Once you have activities planned work out, who you are going to invite, put when during the day you will do that activity (especially if you booked an activity like golfing, etc. or a dinner reservation), you don’t want to miss it or be late.

RELAX AND INVEST IN ME TIME

Me time is time where you get to know yourself better. You are never too old to learn more about who you are as a person. Me time is also a time to take care of your health, body, and mind. Examples: Get a haircut, manicure, pedicure, go to the gym, make my favorite dinner, journaling, watch a sappy movie, curl up with the dog, shopping, sleep in, nap, go  swimming, make a date with yourself.

Some people find spending time alone and with themselves difficult.  They may find it boring or just weird.  They may even feel lonely.  It takes practice spending time with yourself to getting to know you better.  Once you get good at this you will want to have Me Time more often, trust me, it is awesome.

Life Skills Me Time

Just a couple of rules you should follow if you want a great day:

  1. Stay off your technology and enjoy your time with your friends and family
  2. Stay engaged in the activities you are doing.
  3. Stay in the moment of now as much as you can all day.  If you find yourself drifting off to the future or the past simply stop and get back in the moment of now (unless you are reflecting to learn more about yourself and how you can grow as a person).
  4. Turn off your work phone, emails, and other technology. Only use these to connect with the people you are spending your perfect day with.
  5. If you get tired, stop and nap, guilt free.
  6. This is your day, not anyone else’s make yourself important and do what you planned.  Don’t let anyone or anything derail your day.
  7. If you for some reason can’t make the date you set for Your Perfect Day Off, make it up to yourself and do it right away on your next day off.
  8. Plan Your Perfect Day Off as often as you want, the more the merrier.

If you want to make sure you don’t forget anything so you have that plan right in front of you, I have created the Rest n’ Relax Worksheet – Plan Your Perfect Day Off to help make your day perfect.

You can get your copy here.

If you want to feel good on the job, rest and relax on your days off.  This will help you get through your work days and have things to look forward to on your days off.

Having a Perfect Day Off does not just happen, you make it happen!  Judy Michaud

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